Starting conversations can sometimes be difficult especially with individuals who are more guarded in their personality so I think you will find these simple techniques helpful in starting someone talking. To be notified of other videos similar to this one as they are created and published subscribe to my YouTube channel in the sidebar to the right.
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7 good questions to ask to encourage others to open up, tell you about themselves and begin building that all important relationships.
Good listeners are generally very popular, positively spoken about and well-remembered.
So learn to listen carefully because we can learn a LOT from others as everyone has a few interesting stories to share if they are only allowed the opportunity to tell them.
Such active listening skills are rare and will make you stand out from the crowd because you listened and paid attention where the majority will not.
What follows are good questions to ask to get others talking about themselves.
Give most people your attention and the opportunity to speak and they will do so, especially when they can see you are interested in their opinion and what they have to say.
Once talking, all you have to do is nod encouragingly and stay silent to allow them to expand.
However, they may need to be primed to start the conversation and get them talking.
The best way of doing this is by being observant and asking primer questions which you know to be relevant to them.
By being observant of that person you may notice indications of their interests in general.
Or, you may be able to prime them by paying them a compliment that gets them talking about themselves such as:
You are a really sharp dresser! Or, you look really fit, do you train a lot?
Then once they have started talking you can maneuver the conversation around to something you would like to know.
Or use any of the following 7 questions to dig a little deeper.
- What is your happiest memory?
- If you could have your life over what would you do differently?
- What are your top 3 most valuable possessions in life?
- What has been the biggest moment in your life so far?
- What are you MOST afraid of?
- Describe your perfect day?
- What are the achievements that your mom would tell me about which you think are irrelevant?
Please note that all of these questions require a little thinking about
I hope that these 7 good questions to ask have given you some workable ideas and solutions for the next time you want someone to start talking?